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Saturday, 07 November 2009
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Being Equal
I have always had a major struggle. Sense of inferiority or humility. Pride or dignity.
A reflection tonight. Why can I understand those children with SEN, recommending all kinds of accommodations for them, adjusting my expectations and communications with them, adapting my teaching materials for them and still have hopes with them.... but I can't do the same to my same-age peers? We believe people and the environment are both changeable. The fact that we do good doesn't mean we are better than those who don't. The environment just happens to be arranged to our advantage. They're just different, but equally bad and equally good as me.
You don't need an SEN label to love a child better. In the same way, you don't need an explanation to love a person better.
Thursday, 05 November 2009
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The Best Part of My Story
You know, life is never easy, but things can always be worse than what you've actually been through.
My mom was right. She always says to me, "If you think you're miserable, you ARE miserable." Let's quit fooling ourselves spending our time complaining how life is unfair to us, shielding our rotten negativities from the freely-given hopes, demanding the whole world to make up for our misfortunes. There are people out there going through the same, or even more painful, processes that we've been through. If we should hate that hurt so much, why don't we just drop our grievances, move on and reach out for them? Be a little something, to these people who deserve this pain no more than we did.
It's all just a matter of choice.
It was the worst time. And it was the best time. Only by having less, you can be more.
Wednesday, 28 October 2009
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I Don't Like Tinted Glasses
Please don't let me hear any gossip about anyone again. Whenever I hear any nasty opinion about anyone, I start to put on the tinted glasses when I look at the person. And my world grows a little uglier. It's like a kind of Gossip Pollution. Worse still, there doesn't seem to be a way to return to where I used to be.
I don't like it. I really don't like it. I trust my own perception. There weren't any bad people in my world before gossips appeared. Now, the poor old woman suddenly looks like the wicked witch, no matter how hard I remind myself to remain neutral! And there was no trouble caused by my relatively clean perception!!! I was safe and happy! Why, then? Why all the ugly words about people?
From now on, I need to shut my ears whenever people start to gossip.
Monday, 26 October 2009
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Direct quotes of impressive stuff people said at the banquet tonight LoL
"多謝你o地一直照顧阿湄!"said the groom to the colleagues of the bride when toasting at our table. (This is the touching one!)
"我十二月結婚喇!"said Y (finally made her relationship with Mr. K known). (This is a truly exciting one!)
"I have been with my boyfriend since we were 13" said Di. (This is the amazing one!)
The rest of it are...
"It's like chewing someone's feet...The stuff between the toes tastes the best, " said Rob the English guy when eating the goose's claws. Laughed till tears came out, Rosy the American girl said, "Hahahaha...You just said something ridiculous..."
Refusing to take off the shawl, Crystal said, "唔除得o架,淨間你以為點解finish o左隻乳豬,又多隻o係度~"
"I like Mr. Luk. There were a lot of Mr Luks in my school when I was small."
"Yeah, 'stupider' is an actual word! Forget about the dictionary. If Google says yes, I'll go for it."
"To Google!" said Rob, raising his glass of wine to toast. "...Really? To Google?" said Rosy.
Referring to the panel head, "She knows it when I lie! She knows it!! She and Jesus...same kind of thing."
"This is the 27th dress tonight! " said Rob, referring to the gowns of the bride, puzzled.
Fighting for the two special dumplings in the sweet soup, after two rounds of rock-paper-scissors, it narrowed down to Crystal, the panel head and Ms Wu. "望住我!!" said seriously the panel head to Crystal. Crystal ducked and handed one of the dumplings to the panel head, "嘿嘿嘿嘿......Ms Wong!"
"Deep in my heart, I am a very shy girl, "said Crystal. "Really?" said Rob. "Yes," said Crystal. Silence. "Really?" said Rob.
Whenever a dish came, "Cheers!" People put their glasses down. "飲杯!" People put their glasses down again. "Salud!" People put their glasses down for the third time. "Kanpai!" People put their glasses down for the fourth time. "Sante!" People put their glasses down for the fifth time. "Arghrrrarghrrr.." People put their glasses down for the sixth time.
Sunday, 25 October 2009
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Family
If I don't write this down now, I may forget it later.
This morning, at the last song of the service, I saw a really beautiful picture at the front. Terry, his wife and his son hugged one another as the tune faded and everybody was picking up their bags getting ready to leave.
This family has always caught my attention everytime I saw them in church. The couple is probably in their 50s, and their son probably in his 20s. The son apparently suffers from some sort of cerebral palsy. He couldn't walk properly or talk properly. But he sure sings to God and greets other people with his passion. Very often I see the husband put his arm around his wife and his son, and the wife look at her husband and son in the warmest way. The parents never try to overprotect the son. They just let him meet people, meet God in his own way.
Love and respect. Not ashamed of showing love. Not ashamed of the difference.
This is what a family is supposed to be like.
Monday, 19 October 2009
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Experience
I've been wanting to write down what we experienced these days, just it's never been harder for me to find words. Things seem to be passing and changing so quickly. I don't even have enough time to think.
Tonight, we had some quiet time staying together by the sea. And I got to stay away from my desk and really took a rest, my body, my mind and my heart.
I guess for me it wasn't exactly the hardest blow in my life. After all, God fixed it quick and nice. It was indeed the most emotional and spiritual experience that makes the most sense. Not just one day, but all the past two weeks. Never had I been more nervous about the challenges presented to another person. Never had I been in greater pain because of somebody else's pain. Never had I been more real and honest with myself and with God. Never had I had more faith in a person's essence.
And in the end, you'd know, there's really nothing to boast about. After all, what's more than faith, hope and love? It would sound totally cliche if you have never been of the verge of losing them. Once you have, you'll know.
I'd been praying to God for taking away the thorns that's been causing us pain before. I prayed for God to change me and cleanse my heart so that I could be free from my weaknesses and sinful nature. Now I know I will probably never be cleansed and saved from the problems once and for all. And I will probably fall again and again till the day I die. What I have gained this time was... I know to ask myself, "What's the most important?" whenever those thorns come up again. When you don't lose sight of the most important thing, you can't be far from the right path.
Whenever I ask this question to myself, I take a deep breath and then I can give myself a true happy, satisfied smile.
Tuesday, 13 October 2009
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Familiar Morning
I have to meet a parent early this morning because she has to work, so here I am, woke up at 5:45am, enjoyinging the darkness before dawn.
It feels so familiar. This sky. This temperature. This smell in the air. Seems that during my absence, they didn't change a bit. But I did. I definitely did. I know more. And it's both easier and more difficult for me to smile. Easier in the sense that even the simplest thing can be beautiful and miraculous in my heart. It's more difficult because I can't when I don't mean it.
Friday, 02 October 2009
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Heart Melted...
My heart melted when I received a short message from one of my babies this evening telling me that she misses me so much. It's not the first time I got that from them. It still touches me deep inside.
I miss them too, each of them. How are you in your new school? Enjoying that or struggling to survive?
Be good, stay well, my dear babies.
Thursday, 01 October 2009
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Lifting the Curse
I begin to suspect that stories like Sleeping Beauty, The Little Mermaid and Snow White, where true love kisses can free the princesses from the curses that bind their souls and bodies up, are true.
Wednesday, 30 September 2009
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鳴謝
感謝,我的摯友! 感謝妳對我的著緊和心痛。妳是我一生中第二個會為我的事而如此激動的朋友。陳年的傷,都好了,一點也不再痛,就連疤痕也淡得不易看到。曾珍惜的,失去了的,總有點心痛。沒有誰被犧牲,大家當時也只是太年輕。我總願意相信未來會是美好的。那天,我真心的感到快樂。再一次,感謝妳的愛。妳叫我很感動,妳知道嗎?
也感謝不會看這blog的你,那天,你一直陪在我身邊,沒有問甚麼、沒有說甚麼,就一直照顧著我,不曾讓我靜下來。想起來,我一直忽略了你的心意。那天,和多年前的那一天,和更多年前的那一天,一切也在重覆著似的,我相信你都看在眼內,可是你始終沒有明言一句,就只一直地保護我,給我支持,要我勇敢...... 感謝你,真的。
Monday, 28 September 2009
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美麗
今天下午,回校的時候,在月台看見兩個幼稚園學生,一男一女,手拖手在等車。我以為他們是自行來的,細看原來他們各自的家傭都站到一邊做自己的事。他們好奇地看著廣告,男孩看到化妝品廣告中搔首弄姿的女模,笑了起來,女孩告訴他,她媽媽最喜歡化妝品。
然後,他們用手臂搭著彼此的肩膀,幾乎在擁抱著,望著倒映,咯咯地笑起來,男孩說: 「好像結婚一樣。」我不自覺地比他們笑得還要開心。D 說,那小男孩定是喜歡那小女孩。是的,男孩天生就對這等東西麻木,只有當一個男孩真的喜歡一個女孩,才會說這些話,否則,他會一直擺出一副不屑的樣子。當我看見少時自命不羈的好友,娶得自己一生的最愛時流露的幸福,我深刻地明白了。
我在想,如果他們長大後真的能夠結婚,會是一件多麼美麗的事。可惜大人往往比較喜歡和擅長尋找分離的理由,找到一千一百個不對、不配、不悅,卻偏偏忘了一個「不捨不棄」。只懂保護自己感受的人,往往把自己和身邊的人傷得最深。但願這兩個小孩永遠也不用明白這等蠢道理。
Sunday, 27 September 2009
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Forgiveness
Rev. John pointed out that the first thing we need for our faith to work out is forgiveness. Our faith wouldn't be proved real if we prayed holding grudges in our hearts.
I found it both ironic and interesting how the most "unforgivable mistakes" are usually made by persons whom we care about the most. For random acquaintances, we can easily shrugged that away. But we can remember and retell what our loved ones did by mistake for easily ten years or more.
I started to ponder these little question: How many sorrys is too many sorrys? How big a mistake is unforgivable? What is forgiveness? What has God been doing for me? And what has it been to me all the way?
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